Saturday, April 6, 2013

Reclaiming Our Virginity | Care2 Healthy Living

As a sex and intimacy coach that specializes in the issues of women, a recurrent theme around sexuality is that so many women feel used up, numb, and experience a lack of desire around their own sexuality. They long for a time where they felt fresh, pure and alive erotically. One woman said to me at a recent? ?Back to The Body? retreat for women.? ?I wish I could feel like a virgin again. When everything sexual was full of mystery and excitement.?

Well, what about that? What is a virgin anyway? Is it a person that has never experienced sexual intercourse? Is it a state that can be lost simply because penis enter vagina? Does that mean that some lesbians who never experience sexual intercourse with a man remain sexual virgins? Or is it possible to re-define what we mean by virginity and for all of us to be able to reclaim our own sexual virginity?

Eternal virgins feel like they have been born again sexually, or have reclaimed their own pure sexual essence. It is as if they have returned to a natural state where they are free from contamination, societal or religious shame, the softening and letting go of abuse or negative thoughts about their bodies and sexuality.?I have watched many women regain a feeling of spontaneity around their sexual desires where they only welcome in what they need in order to feel in a state of completeness.

We can learn to touch and reclaim this pure essence of our own sexual energy. It is always pure, spontaneous, wild, free, and available to help us create whatever we want in this life. Saida Desilets, Ph.D., a sex educator says,??As we reclaim our virginity, we return to our innate sense of self. Through redefining ourselves according to our own truth and not according to what others lead us to believe, we deepen our trust in really knowing what that is for us?.

Yes, it is possible to be born again sexually ? and to keep being reborn and kept in a pure state of sexual virginity where every touch and moment is free from contamination.?I love this definition of virginity. It?s not about penis in vagina, it?s about the pureness of feeling and the opening afresh every time to touch. It?s this sense of aliveness and anticipation to each and every sexual encounter, and a shame free curiosity to our own bodies that can keep us as eternal virgins. And, it is a practice that we need to spend time exploring every day.

Tips for Reclaiming Your Virginity:

1. Eternal virgins practice conscious sexual activity. They listen to their own inner guidance when making choices around sexual activity.

2. Eternal virgins define themselves according to their own sexual truths and not according to what others want us to believe about our bodies and our sexuality.

3. Eternal virgins work at letting go of outside ?contaminating? thoughts such as body hatred and sexual shame.

2. Eternal virgins understand that only we can touch our pure natural essence. Our bodies always only belong to ourselves.

Yes, it is possible to be an eternal virgin. I watched a 75-year-old woman become one on my last retreat. It can be reclaimed, and kept forever.

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Friday, April 5, 2013

CAMPBELL: Domestic violence needs more attention, care | The ...

Carlie_FINALThe Tribune published a story Tuesday about the rising frequency of aggravated assault cases in Milwaukee, citing domestic violence as a partial cause of this increase. While this may simply seem like numbers in a news story, domestic violence is a unique crime that is not often spoken about and carries so many stigmas that we often avoid speaking about it.

Domestic violence that makes the news often gets labeled as something other than domestic violence. The Jennifer Sebena case mentioned in Tuesday?s article or the shooting in Brookfield last October at the Azana spa are just two examples of this. We see domestic violence as a private, personal crime, not something that is supposed to make front-page news. We are afraid to talk about it.

Domestic violence affects mostly women; 85 percent of domestic violence victims are female. Women in abusive relationships suffer horrendously on a daily basis at the hands of someone who might tell them it is for their own good, that it is their fault; someone who is expected to love them unconditionally, like a husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, father or mother.

Abuse is not always physical; emotional abuse is often just as harmful. One in four women will experience domestic violence of some form in their lifetime, which is the equivalent of a floor and a half of Cobeen Hall residents. The most at-risk age group is between ages 20 and 24, which includes about half of the female undergraduate population at Marquette.

I could write pages more about domestic violence causes, statistics and research, but I think that type of information can just bog us down. What is most important when discussing and understanding domestic violence is how to help victims and how they can share their stories.

Four years ago, if someone had asked me to define domestic violence, I would not have known what to say. Now, however, I don?t think I would know where to start. My sorority?s national philanthropy is Domestic Violence Awareness, and we hold fundraisers for women?s shelters, volunteer and host events that raise awareness about the struggles of those who suffer from domestic abuse. Being in an environment that allows us to talk about this ?unspeakable? topic helps us learn from one another. We also share stories. We share the stories of our mothers, our sisters and ourselves. We are shoulders for each other to cry on and safety nets for each other to fall back on.

The support system and open environment we have is, I believe, key to dealing with these unthinkable situations. I don?t mean that every woman needs sorority sisters on whom to fall back. What I am talking about is women helping other women who are in need.

I don?t know what it will take to end the domestic violence epidemic. I do know, however, that one way to work toward that goal is to educate and involve more women in the cause. I have never personally been a victim of a domestic abuse crime, but every time I hear of one, my heart breaks a little. I am inspired by survivors to raise money and awareness and spend my time helping in their fight.

It is going to take women across the board, from all walks of life, in all professions to end domestic violence. We need women in government and politics who are not afraid to talk about it with one another and their male colleagues. We need caring women to work in shelters and as advocates. We need women journalists and news writers to be unafraid to bring domestic violence to the forefront of our minds. We need men to be able to talk about it, too, but as a crime that disproportionately affects women, it has to start with us. We need to be able to talk about it.

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Caroline Campbell?is a senior in the College of Communication with a major in journalism and a minor in history. Email her caroline.campbell@marquette.edu.

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Richard (RJ) Eskow: Have Wall Street's "Third Way" Democrats Ever Been Right About Anything?

Have the Wall Street Democrats of "Third Way" or their predecessors in the Clintonite "Democratic Leadership Council" ever been right about an important economic issue?

That's not meant as a thoughtless insult or flippant one-liner. ?We consider it a legitimate line of inquiry, especially at a time when their pronouncements are being used as ammunition for an aggressive campaign against Social Security, Medicare, and other vital government programs.

We can omit topics of limited economic importance from our investigation.? The "centrist" Democrats often adopt the 'liberal' line on social issues like gun control or gay marriage - which, coincidentally or not, are also issues which have little or no financial impact on their corporate and high-net-worth individual sponsors.

But what's the verdict on the core economic issues of our time?

Civil Society

Prof. William K. Black Jr. was understandably displeased by the New York Times' description of the Third Way think tank as "center/left." Prof. Black writes that "Some lies will not die ... Third Way is Wall Street on the Potomac.? It is funded secretly by Wall Street (it refuses to reveal its donors), it is openly run by Wall Street, and it lobbies endlessly for Wall Street."

Black adds that "Third Way, like every Pete Peterson front group, is dedicated to shredding the safety net as its highest priority and throwing the Nation back into a gratuitous recession through self-destructive austerity."

The description of Third Way as a "Pete Peterson front group" might seem to contradict the "Wall Street" label. It doesn't. Peterson's a hedge fund billionaire who has devoted decades of his life, as well as an enormous sum (he spent nearly a half-billion dollars in one five-year period alone) to slashing Social Security and lowering taxes for himself, his ultra-wealthy peers, and large corporations.

Black's words are likely to be deemed uncivil in most Washington circles, where it's considered impolite to mention a gentleman's or lady's wealthy (and potentially corrupting) funding sources in polite company. Besides, who wants to find themselves thinking negative thoughts about lobbying when you may want to pursue it yourself someday??

This "civil" attitude toward an uncivic activity proved very useful in the 1990s, as corporate Democrats joined with Republicans in the extremely civil exercise of deregulating Wall Street on behalf of their common paymasters.

Wild in the Streets

In those days Third Way President Jonathan Cowan was predicting - or attempting to instigate - a generational war over Social Security and Medicare benefits. In 1994 Cowan and Rob Nelson co-authored a book called Revolution X, which argued that greedy baby boomers were going to ruin the economy with their rapacious appetites for things like medical care and financial security when they grew old.

Cowan, who was born in 1965, was young enough back then to have employed a slogan like "Don't respect the Social Security Trust Fund of anyone over thirty."

The book predicted cataclysmic events in 2011 when, said the authors, rapacious Boomers "will stop working, many will stop paying taxes, and all will start gobbling up pensions and health care benefits."?? (Note the use of the word "gobbling": it's a classic Peterson-ism.)

The result, predicted Revolution X, would be a "shock wave" that would "blast people from their homes, rapidly plummet millions into poverty, and threaten the economic security and financial stability of our entire nation."?

Cowan and Nelson were so eager to stir up an anti-elderly frenzy that they actually actually conducted a demonstration outside the headquarters of the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP). That was done while they were leading a Peterson-funded group called "Lead or Leave," and it was as unsuccessful in provoking intergenerational warfare as their subsequent efforts have been.

Their failure did not, however, prevent them from continuing to "gobble up" Peterson funds.

It's the nineties now. The time's ripe for a generational uprising which calls for lower government spending, right? Wrong.

Fresh Princes of Wall Street

A decade and a half later something did "blast people from their homes, rapidly plummet millions into poverty, and threaten the economic security and financial stability of our entire nation." In fact, the entire world was wounded.

But "greedy geezers" didn't cause that cataclysm: Third Way's Wall Street sponsors did. They trashed the global economy like a Baby Boom rock star trashes a hotel room. We didn't hear much about that from Cowan and Company.

Given their close relationship with Wall Street, one might hope that Third Way and its peers could offer some useful thoughts on ways to improve regulation and oversight. One would be wrong.

That's not to say that Third Way has been completely silent on the banking issue. In one notable example, it put forward a proposal that would preempt state law in order to protect bankers who illegally foreclose on homeowners.? They don't put it that way, of course, but that would be the end result. (Yves Smith and Bob Borosage have more.)

Third Way's board members include a number of prominent financial types who benefited mightily from bank deregulation, including some (like William M. Daley) who lobbied and fought for deregulation.

Funny. The Third Way crowd keeps saying they're bringing "fresh" and "new" perspectives to the debate, but all they do is keep rehashing twenty-year-old talking points. They don't seem to have learned from the economic shocks - and financial revelations - of the 21st Century. The world has learned some hard lessons, but they still want to party like it's 1999.

Hey, bankers deserve a break, right??Wrong.

Classic Rock

Cowan's still try to fan the flames of intergenerational fear and loathing, most recently as part of an absurdly inept Pete Peterson publicity gambit called The Can Kicks Back. (Cowan's role is documented by?Eric Laursen.) His war on Boomers is entering its twentieth year, and the youth of America still aren't interested. ?

Cowan will be fifty in a couple of years. But he's still playing the oldies, like a classic rock act working half-empty arenas. As Spinal Tap would say:? Hello, Cleveland!?

"The Can Kick Back": It can't miss. This time the kids'll turn on the old folks, right? Wrong.

(Deficit) Apocalypse Now

Cowan and Nelson suggested in 1994 that the nation's most urgent crisis was the allegedly intractable Federal deficit - a deficit which disappeared altogether several years later.

Cowan's still prone to statements like this one: "The fiscal cliff provides Congress with a now or never moment to solve our most pressing long term problem - the nation's deep and chronic deficits."

We're currently experiencing crisis-level unemployment, record-high poverty (than includes one American child in six), wage stagnation, and a decline in social mobility. Citizens struggling with these problems will be surprised to learn that deficits are a more "pressing long-term problem" than their future, or that of their children.

Deficit spending re-emerged during the Bush years as the result of tax cuts (especially for the ultra-wealthy and corporations) and two wars "paid for on a credit card." And it escalated significantly when Third Way's Wall Street patrons crashed the economy in 2008.

Current debt levels would be far more sustainable after a short-term stimulus program restarted the economy. The Congressional Progressive Caucus budget reduces the deficit far more aggressively than any Third Way-backed plan, but it also might discommode Third Way's wealthy backers.

Federal deficits are our most pressing problem? Wrong. (They don't know how to fix them, either.)

Less Is More Less

As part of the Pete Peterson family of companies lobbying groups, Third Way routinely lobbies for lower taxes --- which, of course, increases those?deficits.

Their latest initiative is an attempt to cut?corporate taxes - which, despite the propaganda, are actually lower in the United States than in most other developed countries. (You have to look at the rates corporations actually pay, not the nominal rates that are on the books - but which they all use loopholes to evade.)

Third Way argues that their patrons' preferred system of (lower) taxes would increase employment in the United States. The response to that is simple: We've had more than a decade of low taxes for wealthy individuals and corporations. How's that working out for you?

But lower taxes lead to economic growth, don't they? Look around you: Wrong.

Power to the (Right) People

When Occupy Wall Street first hit the scene, demonstrating the potential to transform political landscape, Third Way sent its best person out to craft a response.? That turned out to be Bill Schneider, the former CNN political analyst who is now a Third Way "Distinguished Senior Fellow & Resident Scholar."

Schneider was born in 1944, and is therefore too old to be a Baby Boomer. That might explain why he's socially acceptable to the generationally-obsessed and Boomer-loathing Third Way crowd. Scheider's piece dismisses Occupy Wall Street as a group which would inevitably alienate the majority of Americans.

Perhaps predictably, the opposite happened. The Occupy movement became enormously popular, and remained that way until unsympathetic media coverage, relentless police harassment, and internal friction turned the public against it.

Like-minded political pollster Douglas Schoen, another faux "centrist," promptly produced an unscientific and unprofessional poll for the Wall Street Journal which purported to show that Occupy's agenda was wildly unpopular with Americans. As we discussed then, the opposite is true: That agenda was, and is, extremely popular with the electorate.

Schoen began his Journal piece by?red-baiting Occupy, writing of the movement's "intense opposition to free-market capitalism and support for radical redistribution of wealth, intense regulation of the private sector, and protectionist policies." With the unerringly inaccurate political instincts of the "centrist" operative, Schoen then advised the Democrats thusly:

"President Obama and the Democratic leadership are making a critical error in embracing the Occupy Wall Street movement-and it may cost them the 2012 election."

We now know that President Obama and the Democrats continue to emphasize Occupy themes throughout the campaign - job creation, restraining Wall Street, protecting Medicare and Social Security - which was critical to their 2012 victories for the Presidency and Senate. (They won the House, too, by a million votes - but only in the popular vote.)

Populism will never sell. What the public really wants is corporate-friendly policies like the ones that got us into this mess, right? Wrong.

But wait. There's more ...

Third Way on health care? Wrong.? (And wrong in a way that will drive up health care costs, which should be a deficit hawk's biggest concern.)

Third Way on voter opinion in battleground states? Wrong.

Third Way on progressive opinion about Social Security? Wrong.

Third Way on public opinion about Social Security? Wrong.

Third Way on the corporate-driven rules of the new economy? Wrong.

Have they been right about any economic issue of import? We haven't found any evidence for that. But we promise to keep on looking. ?

Up next: Third Way finds a new issue -- with predictable results.

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Friday, March 29, 2013

UEFA urges players to speak out on racism

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updated 8:58 a.m. ET March 28, 2013

SOFIA, Bulgaria (AP) - UEFA's executive committee wants players to speak out against teammates and fans after racist incidents at soccer matches.

The UEFA ruling board on Thursday ratified a proposal on tackling discrimination presented by its Professional Football Strategy Council, which is chaired by President Michel Platini.

A call for tougher sanctions echoed recent comments by FIFA President Sepp Blatter, but went further in stressing a key role for players to curb the problem.

Players and coaches, "namely those with most influence on the perpetrators of racist acts - (should) speak out, even if this may mean criticizing their own fans or players," UEFA said.

After high-profile incidents in the English Premier League last season, Chelsea and Liverpool were criticized for solidly standing by John Terry and Luis Suarez, respectively, who served bans for racially insulting opponents.

The debate on racism in European soccer intensified this season after incidents including a bad-tempered match between Serbia and England in an Under-21 European Championship playoff, and stadium closures imposed by FIFA on Hungary and Bulgaria for World Cup qualifiers.

AC Milan midfielder Kevin-Prince Boateng's decision to walk off the field, causing an exhibition against a fourth-tier Italian club to be abandoned, led FIFA to appoint him to a task force studying the problem.

The UEFA strategy panel - which included delegates from national associations, leagues, clubs and players' unions - met Wednesday in Sofia and urged competition organizers to tell referees "to stop matches in cases of racism."

Still, UEFA's claim of zero tolerance of racism comes after it declined to open disciplinary action against Zenit St. Petersburg following a Europa League match two weeks ago against Basel, where Russian fans reportedly targeted monkey noises at the Swiss club's players.

The UEFA statement Thursday called on state authorities to "play their part" by "providing the football bodies with the necessary legal means; acting and emphasizing to arrest, prosecute and ban from stadia for significant periods those responsible for racist acts; allowing the exchange of information regarding racist activities between states and football bodies."

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Tasker's New User-Friendly UI Makes Automating Your Android a Breeze Android (4.0+): Android tweaking and customization tool Tasker picked up a major update today, and now sports a Holo-themed new look that will make building your own custom apps and automating the ins and outs of your device much, much easier.

We briefly discussed the new interface when it was in beta back in January, but the new UI has made its way to the official app now, and it all new icons with it. There's even a guide to help you get started creating apps and tasks, and different toggles and tweaks are easier to find. Also, the whole thing got a Holo-esque makeover that looks great in Ice Cream Sandwich and Jelly Bean. There are new pre-built actions and states designed for newer devices, and pre-made events and actions that make customization a little easier. All the power is still there under the hood, too.

There is a catch though: if you have Android 4.0 or higher (ICS or JB), you'll get the new design with today's update. If you're running GIngerbread or lower, sorry, the new UI isn't for you. If you already have Tasker, today's update is free. If you've been thinking about getting it but worried it might be overwhelming, now's a good time to try it out. Grab it at Google Play below.

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